“Just relax. You need to take time for you. You should be exercising. Eating healthy, clean and organic meals would help you and your family.” Do these well-meaning statements want to make you SCREAM? Just one more thing on the list of things you ARE NOT doing. The never ending ‘should do” litany continues. Whether we are raising, educating or working with individuals with autism, or any other person with special needs for that matter, we know all too well that we should be taking care of ourselves. But, the million-dollar question is WHEN? HOW? The demands on our physical, emotional and time resources are excessive on a ‘good’ day! A day in the life of a parent raising a child with autism is jam packed with therapy, appointments, phone calls and interspersed with negotiation, begging and meltdowns. Oh, and don’t forget the laundry, grocery shopping, meal prep, cleaning,
Oh good! You're back! I was hoping I could entice you to step on me again today! You're staring at me. So many self-judgments racing through your mind, I see. Thoughts of self-disgust threaten your self-worth. I cannot help but giggle as you strip down so as to influence the number I render. It's so easy to toy with your emotions. Yesterday you were gleeful with the number I showed you. Today, your inner frustration spills out of your mouth as you curse at me. Oh how I love the way I control so much of your life. Your thoughts about yourself, your mood, the exercise you do and even the food you eat are controlled by me. The power is addictive! I toy with you like a puppet on the string. If I raise the number by so much as a half a pound, your face makes your thoughts transparent. WAIT. What
Okay, bear with me...I am still stuck on the whole "I don't have time" thing. I keep noticing that I literally race through life - from one task, appointment, meeting, event to another. I complain that I don't have time to take a warm bath, a walk in the woods, to read a good book and the list goes on. But now, I hear myself saying it and I flinch a little. Why don't I have time? Like so many people, my life is crazy busy. But if I am honest, I have more control over how I use it than I allow myself to believe. I love reading. But let's face it, at night when I am exhausted I allow myself to scroll through Facebook with very little attantion the length of time I do it. I am also known for having to get "just one more" email sent. I
Take a peek into my inner thoughts on any given day… My mouth: “I don’t have time to do something for me!” Stern voice in my head: “Rephrase please: You choose not to have time.” My mouth: “You don’t understand! I DON’T have time!” Stern voice: “Okay, believe what you will, and go on being miserable.” Ouch. I catch myself saying it more often than I care to admit! What if the stern voice makes a good point? I make choices with my time. A dear friend is batting terminal cancer. I would never dare to complain to her that I lack time! I think we as humans (me included) are fooling ourselves when we say we don’t have time. Now, I realize that that there are circumstances and times in life when events out of our control take over and consume our time. On any given day, what do you
Do you ever just need to escape? Refill a very empty reservoir? Nurture yourself, for a change? Most of the year I am content to take mini escapes - to carve an hour out for myself. But three years ago I discovered that I needed something more. I needed to really disconnect so that I could reconnect. I needed to do something totally different. Something that challenged me and yet, refueled me. And I found it. The Abbey of the Genesee in upstate New York offers me more tranquility and inner peace than any other place I have ever been. Yes, at first the thought of visiting a Monastery of Trappist monks and immersing myself in a silent retreat was slightly terrifying. At the same time, I was intrigued and felt a 'pull.' Words cannot express how deeply grateful I am that I allowed myself to be pulled. My yearly
Are you tired of being tired? Do you have goals that you never seem to achieve? Do you give more of yourself than you are able to replenish? Taking care of others, especially those we love, quickly depletes us. Too often we put our needs last and end up exhausted, burnt out and unhappy. We need to refuel! But how? We try to eat healthy and stay active but our results are disappointing! Good news! The nutritional superfoods and support offered by Isagenix have the potential to change your life. The nutrition packed power foods provide the perfect fuel we need to be able to take excellent care of our bodies and mind so we can keep giving the best of ourselves to those we love. How would it affect those you love if you were able to lose weight, increase your energy, improve your focus and achieve the goals
The end of school looms close - but not close enough. Exhaustion permeates every classroom and staff room. Summer taunts us with warm sunny days and yet we remain trapped in school. I can hear my American friends giggling. Every year, educators and students alike, in all parts of the world, must persist till the final bell rings. For twenty-five years I too have found myself with a diminished sense of humour, reduced patience and increased anxiety over what needs to be done in the time left. Will I ever learn? Refueling our bodies and minds seem to be considered a luxury for many of us. Too many times I catch myself trying to, "push through exhaustion and stress because I will relax when the holidays arrive." Can you relate? The problem is that we end up so tired and overwhelmed that we don't enjoy the homestretch to the summer holidays.